I AM SO CONFUSED, please need advice

[hulk_hogan]

So I am currently engaged to my girlfriend of 2 years and the wedding is 174 days a way, invatations not sent yet, but the save the date or pre-invataions or whatever have been sent. And I do love here, she is a good girl, a real pure and honest girl, so pure and honest she has no ideas about the risks of roleplaying, she calls it medications and thinks they are about as serious as antibiotics. I am 31 and she is 30 and I am only the 5th guy she has slept with, she was the only girl tht ever made me wait over a month for sex, hell she was the only girl who made we make over 2 days for sex that i can remember, lol.

So 3 weeks ago she got a boob job and a little lipo, and we have not been able to have sex since, nor will we for another 3 weeks. I know this is no excuse for what happened but I just wanted to throw it out there.

I met a girl who was a stripper, lving in a real crappy hotel and was actaully only in my area cuz her car brokedown and she had no way of getting bak to where she came from so she started stripping to earn cash to fix car, but the hotel bascially cost about what she earned and she was making little to no headway. I began to see alot of myself in her as she is 19 and a young soul making bad choices as i was when i was younger and we hit it off and had realy only what i could describe as the most mind blowing sex i have ever had in my whole life.

this isnt just about the sex though we enjoyed hanging out and goofing around ect

but my girlfriend is not really that much fun in bed, and right now she isnt even having sex with me due to the surgery

anyway me and this younger girl started getting intense and she told me how people treated her at the strip club, and i didnt like hearing about it, i wanted to protect her and i became emotionally involved, i made her quit, but now unemployed she has no where to go, so instead of paying for her hotel, i told her i would buy her a plane ticket back to texas, and i put her on a plane yesterday morning and i was hoping out of sight out of mind, and that i would just move and forget about it

i have been a wreck ever since, she called me the second she landed and told me she wants to come back and be with me and i lost it

i also got in a fight with my girlfriend and told her i wasnt sure if i loved her anymore we began crying

i reakize i still love my girfriend, but i am NOT in love right now

i never cheated on her before and i wonder how much the no sex plays a part while she is in recovery

i also know if we had not sent out invites for the wdding, it probaly would be alot easir breaking up with her

any advice,please

i am despearate

thanks

[hulk_hogan]

and yes i know there are a ton of mispelled words and that this is not the place for it, but this board is anonymous, and i really need advice from people i dont know

and this is the first time i spoke of it, as many of my friends dont wanna hear about it

please

thanks

[bmillay]

lets put it this way ........a mans urge can overcome whats real ...... afterwards confusing him .......but if thought of in the overall scheme of things the urge can be placed into perspective and what is real can be gotten back to
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[hulk_hogan]

the problem is i am not sure whats real anymore, i do know what i have with my girlfriend, she is like my bestfriend and has put up with alot of my bs, infact she even helped groomed to be sucessful in work and improve my family relations

but i wonder if she has brought me as fas as she can...

[hulk_hogan]

i am sorry but talking/writing about this is very helpful for me right now

1. the 19 yo stripper is hot, but probaly thats where it ends
2. my gf is hot and it goes beyond that
3. 19yo stripper i feel bad for and i have a tendecy to try and save the world, one poor little girl at a time, this girl will be alot of work, as well turn into a full time job and will probaly never be taken seriously by my family
4. does this just seem like classic cold feet?
5. do you think i can fuck the stripper a few more times and give her a propper good bye? like fly her in for a few days and her put her up in a hotel then fly her back? would they be the best way to let her go? i dont wanna hurt her, ya know?

in the end i dont wanna hurt either of these girls

but what scares me is this, if there was chink in the armour that is my realationship with my girlfriend will it always be there, i am not saying the 19yo chick is the answer, but maybe a sign

people always said to me, you can have an incredinle realationship, but if you are not 100% satisfied with your sex life the realtionship will fall apart

now my sex with my girlfriend has been none latley because of the surgery, maybe i need her to recover before i make a descion, i dunno

[goof321]

Take a deep breath, you have a stable understanding girl at home.
Im sure once she makes a full recovery and starts being a bit more impressed with her new look things may change for the better.
As WE (us men) all know women have alot of self confidence issues. The surgery may boost that self confidence and change things around.
Give it some time, keep in touch with the stripper.....just in case things go south with the fiance. ALways have options but never make rash decisions based on those options. 174 days is a loooong time.

[demonsweat]

Do your girlfriend/fiancee the biggest favor you could ever do her and call the wedding off immediately.

[hulk_hogan]

Originally Posted by goof321

Take a deep breath, you have a stable understanding girl at home.
Im sure once she makes a full recovery and starts being a bit more impressed with her new look things may change for the better.
As WE (us men) all know women have alot of self confidence issues. The surgery may boost that self confidence and change things around.
Give it some time, keep in touch with the stripper.....just in case things go south with the fiance. ALways have options but never make rash decisions based on those options. 174 days is a loooong time.

thats really where my head is at, its just the other girl keeps calling me, telling me i am everything to her, which is empowering and scary all at the same time. I DO LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND, but i lust for that little girl.

Originally Posted by demonsweat

Do your girlfriend/fiancee the biggest favor you could ever do her and call the wedding off immediately.

thats the one thing i cant do, i am way to selfish to do that. the way i figure it is that my feelings for the other chick will go away and everything will just work out or it gonna explode REAL BIG day of wedding, which is bad, but at this point calljng off the wedding after a few weeks of random lustful sex with a barely legal stripper is just crazy.


I wish i could just introduce them and have both, lol

[Titan]

Well Bro I can see that you have your hands and head full here. Well I can relate to your situation to a degree. I would say the same as demonsweat cancel the wedding and let your girlfriend move on with her life. Your not ready to get married, and my friend life is to short to make long lasting mistake. In the end all you will do is hurt her and yourself. Step up and be a Man. My 2 cents.



Titan

[Lockk]

I would say if ya read your own posts carefully that the best piece of advice has already been given to you and I quoted it below. Now it's just a matter of taking the step and using that advice.

I would just say that you will also be doing yourself a large favor.

Good luck to you.

Originally Posted by demonsweat

Do your girlfriend/fiancee the biggest favor you could ever do her and call the wedding off immediately.