When It Rains, It Pours!!! (Women Trouble)

[TenMan]

I made a good (female) friend at my gym about 2 years ago. Very knowledgable, great shape, pretty, nice personality, and very pretty. Well, her and I hit it off pretty good as friends (only) about 2 years ago and although she switched gyms, we would still stay in touch via e-mail or an occassional deal ECY, Meridia, clen...diet shit.

I get a phone call about 1/2 hour ago and its the trainer chick. Well, dumb ass never deleted any of our e-mails and her husband got a hold of them and blew his fucking stack!!!!...just as i would. As our friendship progressed, things became looser and we would ever so slightly flirt with each other...no, "I wanna fuck you baby.' But more like, Hi Sweetie, I saw you biking down I-29 last evening...be careful, lots of people get hurt on the road. Laters, and be good!

So her husband finds all this nonsense. I was never after her anyway...we just "clicked" and seemed to have a nice friendship. AND IF after 2 years, I wasn't getting any pussy, I would have given up a hell of a long time ago!lol!

So they have their huge shouting match last night and she calls me today (thank God my wife wasn't home) to tell me what happened and how we need to stop e-mailing and all that shit. Needless to say, i completely understand the sitch, but my GOD, she was (is) like one of my best friends in the friggin world. On the other hand, I obviously see his point...who wouldn't! I suppose the only thing I can do is learn from it. I've been married 20 years and have no plans to fuck around on my wife. I offered to meet with him in a public place so we could talk...NOPE. I offered to meet in a public place with my wife to discuss this...NOPE.

I guess I shold just stay the fuck out of the whole thing and let it die its own death.

Ya know, I'm 5'7" 240 lbs of pretty solid muscle and have had self defense training and manouvers from a former Soviet army (CCCP) hand-to-hand fist, knife, and pistol instructor, but with all that, I ain't worth a shit fixing this up. I think we've all been there that no matter how bad ass we are, our strenght and wits just cannot solve the situation at hand.

I feel so bad for her that I would throw the whole thing right on myself and take all the blame...which there really isn't anyway.

Learn from this guys...some situations cannot be fixed with a 20 " bicep or a 400 lb squat.

I actiaually wish the guy woud come over here and cock me in the jaw. I believe I would feel much better.

Boy, it sucks to be me today....

TenMan

[Mindfcuk]

Bro wtf have really done? Besides be a man on test and flirt with your female training partner. Are you saying you would be all pissed and shit with your wife if she flirted with her male friend???

Its a couple of things wrong with this picture wtf was he checking her email unless he suspected something? Maybe he is cheating himslef, and he is pissed. Maybe she really wanted to fuck you and she accidently mentioned your name in sex, or sleep, or hell maybe she made your friendship more than what it really was, Overall i do not see what you did.

Although I am a young fella, I have 2 years of marriage which does not compare to your 20 but I know the do's and donts, and really you didnt do anything... at least to me...

[ORBIS]

Sounds like the husband has insecurity with himself, most people that get jelouse easy are just that. You did nothing wrong, theres is a line married people should not cross and you did not even begin to cross it in my book. Talking to a female and getting clen and diet shit for her , thats all it was. I would not feel bad at all.
As for as the emails go, thats where the husband prob let his jaw drop. I would not email her anymore, about clen,t3 or whatever haha.

[Bronzebeefcake]

Wow thats a hard one......I live by one motto. Put yourself in the other persons shoes, then rethink your conclusion or future actions.......If youd flip then you should stop......If you were such gooood friends then I would hope your spouses would have met or maybe known about u two.........

Its the secretive part that gets everyone.....Mankinds greatest fear is still the unknown....

[fit4lyfe]

I think he was jealous of you and your relationship with her, wis he in shape?? does he invovle himself with ehr activities other than reading her e-mails?? reading e-mails can be very miss leading as the emotion doesn't show like when you tell a joke noone can se your expression to see that your joking, and this could be why it was such a big deal to him. But the simple fact that he is checking up on her tells that he is probably cheating and suspects or fears her of the same. I say tell your wife what happened maybe she can be a buffer in the sitch for now, until time has past and if you are good friends sometimes time alone can make these things ease up and come around.. who is she gonna come to for her supplements?? just chill and it will all die down after time. I went through something similar at my old work as a bartender, being friends with all the girls working at the bar and knowing every girl in town that goes out on the weekends drove my wife f*king nuts but after awhile she got used to it and I was careful to make sure I considered her feelings when hugging and saying hi to everyone...

[Sockfilter]

Well I guess I can say I have been in the other shoes so to speak. Not so much with e-mail but with cell phone calls. I had no idea what was going on and had no reason to believe she would do this to me. For 12 years we were married and as far as I was concerened we were very much in love.

I never go through the cell phone bill, but happen to one month and happened to come across some phone calls that were taking place at 7am-8am every morning for 30-45 mins. Well I typically could care less, but she was a bartender at a strip club and did not get home till 3am. So I started thinking what in the hell could be so important at 7am when she is just starting to get some good sleep.

Well needless to say she thought the grass was greener on the other side and decided to leave..

TenMan, I think you did nothing wrong, but the point to my story is to tell your partner when you meet someone else of the opposite sex that you like to hang out with. It's much eaiser to deal with now than later. Your friends husband can think of nother worse than what went on for 2 years behind his back. He will start thinking up shit and palying out roles in his head etc..

Unfortunatley if anyone is to blame, it would be your friend... I'm sure you dont want to heat that..

I am happly married again with a wonderful daughter and great wife , however she is very jealous, but I tell her anyways when I meet someone cool. That away it cant backfire on me...

Just my 500mg's

Sock

[The Anonymizer]

If your biceps are 20in and you only squat 400lbs i think you need to bring up your legs!


j/k....i think the mistake was made in the beginning not including her husband in your friendship just so he didnt think it was something it wasnt. probably can't fix it now.

[IronpumpedLady]

Wow, thats a tuff one!!! From a woman's view, I agree you really didn't do anything really wrong. Now the emailing I think if you guys where just friends should have stayed that way, friendly, no remarks that could have been taken to the extremes, like her husband has. But I do think that even though, (I'M Assuming) your spouses never met each other, something should have been mentioned about this friendship to your spouses, this is called covering your A**!! LOL Sounds bad but its true. Its so easy to make something out of nothing when you are the out side party, and somewhat insecure. Which Her husband sounds like he is, but to his defence, maybe he has a reason to be, sad to say, but sometimes when you are friends with someone thats married, there is a whole other side to that person and there life that you may never hear about or know anything about. I like to give everyone the "benefit of doubt", and have been taken advantage of because of it many times. My friends are always telling me I am to nieve and way to nice for my own good. But thats just me and part of what I am about I guess. Back to your friend, I don't like to assume, but there's usually some reason for the other party to get jealous and do crazy things, like go thru private stuff, so they can have proof to there suspicians (can't spell!! LOL). But then again he may have been the one trying to take the heat off his own back.

But thats neither here nor there, the whole thing is it "Should have never been a Secret friendship", thats what breaks the rule of trust. Honesty is the best policy in a relationship, so no stones are left unturned.
This is just my opinion, hope I didn't make anyone mad!!

Stay STrong~~~!!!!