My pretty weird next vacation

[Massacre]

Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Massacre]

BTW, I should be back after memorial day weekend with a pretty great story to tell you guys. Three days with my gf+my ex present and everyone wasted all weekend should be extremely interesting.

[longhorn71]

Here's the deal bro....if you're really over your ex 100% then it shouldn't be a problem. Is your current gf better than your ex? You seem like you 'might' be a little hung up on her still.

Also, do not get involved in the relationship between your ex and her bf...nothing at all good could come out of that.

You're a bigger man than I am because in my experience and I am older than you are, ex's are ex's for a reason. I am still in touch with a couple of real close ones but going on a vacation with them under these circumstances would be totally out of the question for me.

Good luck with this one. Just be a man about it. Be honest with your emotions to those around you and more importantly yourself. Just make sure at the end of the day you can look at yourself in the mirror (not flexing of course) and be OK with that person.

[The Anonymizer]

i'm kinda lost here.

you and your ex are still "sorta" friends, but she ditched you to date one of your old buddies and you're over her.

you and her new b/f (your old buddy) are "sorta" friends, but you dont respect him because he disrespects her infront of you and probably beats he behind closed doors.


how is going on vacation with them better than just going on vacation with the new g/f alone? if its about splitting the cost, just look for a cheaper place to stay. spending vacations with friends are for real friends....not ex's you're not 100% over and their new b/f who beats the crap out of her.

by the way, the board is public, we just need more members!....delete your post whenever you want. if myself or one of my mods sees your post is deleted then we'll delete the thread.

[tiggerizme]

Damn Mass, I din't know you were so deep.. LOL... It sounds to me like what Longhorn said is in fact a possibility, you probably are not 100% over her.. If I ever saw a man hit a woman, whether I knew her or not I'd have to step in, that's just the way I was raised. Nothing wrong with no intervention because like you said it isn't your problem.. I honestly think this vacation you speak of may not turn out the way it should. When ex'es and ex bf and new gf get involved along with alcohol, which I am sure there will be, it could get pretty nasty bro.. I'd hate to see something bad happen between you all and what little bit of a friendship you do have could turn sour.

I'll have to stick with Longhorn on this one and recommend that you not put yorself in that position.. Don't put yourself in a position to get hurt, your current girlfriend to get hurt, or your buddy.. One thing could happen and a chain of events could unravel that may never be able to be correctly mended. Hope all goes well no matter what advice you take..

And as far as the public thing, I don't think any of the few who are currenlty here will be mentioning this to anyone.. You have my guarantee that it's solely between us and the wall.

[Massacre]

This is the thing. It was about me and my other (real)friend but he brought him along. He asked me if it was ok and Iwas ok with it. Sure, I'm over her but I didn't want to be a dick and say NO DON'T LET THEM STAY WITH US. I mean......afterall. They're paying for most of it.

I've never seen him hit her. I have seen him disrespect her and like I said that's not my problem anymore. If she lets him especially infront of everyone and me then she probably deserves it. I would never let that happen if I was in her shoes. I wouldn't care so much about anyone but about me. Do I beleive I have a future with her? NOPE! I do think we will remain good friends for a very long time due to our past. I don't even know how to explain it. It's weird.

[tiggerizme]

Well good luck with it.. I hope it all turns out right..

[Massacre]

It'll be allright. I don't feel anything for her in that way. I just feel it's wierd that it's been so many years and we can't seperate completely for good. We always find ourselves back in the same circle year after year.

That's all that really boggles my mind. Sign or coincidence? Trust me, I am over her. If I wasn't I wouldn't be going being the chance that I might walk into the spot and they might be banging. I know it wouldn't bother me.